Catholic Weddings

Planning your wedding can be a daunting task but, with the help of our wedding guide, you can easily get  everything organised. To begin with, we have prepared the following step-by-step planner to ensure the smooth running of the big day itself.

Arrange everything with the person who is performing your wedding. 

Agree on a budget with your family and fiancée (see Budget Checklist)

Compile the guest lists with both families and choose your best man, ushers, bridesmaids, pageboys, karaoli, dhedo and dhedi.

Book the venue and the caterers, (get at least three estimates from different caterers, and ask them for sample menus and drinks lists)

Start looking around to see what you and the bridesmaid / karaoli are going to wear. Book a designer well ahead, if you have something special in mind.

Book your wedding cars / transport for the family and guests  and liaise with friends and family about whose cars will be used on the day.

Book a photographer/video company, asking to see samples of their work

Now’s the time to start browsing for ideas for your wedding list. See our checklist.

Confirm arrangements with the person who is performing your ceremony. Discuss with them the service, readings and music you would like / the puja itinerary in the case of Hindus.
Order your wedding stationery – you will need invitations, Mass booklets, thank-you notes, etc.

Discuss the flowers – for your bouquet, head-dress, buttonholes, church and reception, floral decor at venue, garlands, roses for the guests, loose flowers, etc. – with your florist .

Order your wedding rings, mangalsutra, bangles, etc.

Order your cake, ladoos, kapann, mithais, etc.

Fulfil registration formalities.

Check or renew your passport. Arrange to have your name changed on your passport, so that it’s the same as the name on any travel documents

Book a hotel for your wedding night, if needed.

Shop for your wedding and honeymoon clothes.

Send your invitations out at least six weeks before the wedding, and record acceptance and refusals as they come in.

Make sure that your guests have details
of local hotel accommodation.

Arrange for presents for attendants, best man, bridesmaids, in-laws, relatives, etc

Chase up late invitation replies and finalise the guest list.
Check that all the wedding clothes for you, your groom and all attendants are near completion.

Visit your hairdresser with your headdress, plan what style you want and book your final appointment. If you are styling your hair yourself, have a practice run.

Check that all the transport arrangements are finalised, and time the journey to the church / temple.

Order any traveller’s cheques and currency.

If you plan to change your name or address, notify your bank, building society, doctor, etc. Don’t forget to tell your friends, too!

Give the final number of guests to the caterers, in writing, two weeks before the wedding

Arrange your spinster’s or bachelor’s party — but, if at all possible, don’t have it the night before the wedding!

Have the rehearsal for the ceremony, and check that the service sheet has been deliverd to the best man.

Make final checks on your clothing

Wear-in your wedding shoes at home

By Suzanne Pereira