Need to solve problems faced by fairer sex on priority: experts


There is a need to solve on priority the problems faced by the fairer sex at their homes, schools, offices and other places or while they travel in buses, where they come in direct contact with the men, by following a revolutionary thought process, opined the experts at a seminar on `Sexual crime against women and the need to change social mindset,’ organised by  Chitrang of Konkani Bhashya Mandal at the Art and Culture Multipurpose Hall at EDC Plaza, Panaji.
The experts at the seminar resolved to start grievances cells in schools, which the victims can easily approach for help.
The experts said that by creating grievances cells, an opportunity can be offered to the sexually abused victims, where they can share the instances of abuse at homes, schools or while they travel in buses with other colleagues.
They felt that efforts should be made to highlight the problems through the authorities and accused should be punished accordingly.
They also felt that with the creation of grievances cells, they (victim girls) should raise their voice and express themselves freely about domestic violence, instances of abuse at schools or at the workplace, where there are chances of them suffering the most, but often keep mum without highlighting it due the fear of repercussions and other personal factors.
Ms Shauni Shetye while dealing with `Rapes and Myths,’ said  there is no specific time and specific place where rapes take place so that a girl can be guarded.
She said that most of the rapes are spontaneous and due to cultural influence.
“Bad character of a woman is not a passport for man to rape her to derive sadistic pleasure,” she added.
She said that there is no need to hide any sexual crime due to the image, respect or prestige of the family and added that the victim should take legal aid so that the guilty could be punished.
Ms Kajal Kerkar, while touching the topic `Legal aspects of rape cases,’ said that many rape cases brought revolutionary changes in the country like Vishaka rape case ended with J S Verma Commission, and Delhi girl’s rape and a 7-year-old girl from Vasco school brought sea change in the security at the schools in the state.
She said that rapes are committed with different motives like to settle humiliation, to teach lessons or express power, adding that during partition one lakh women were raped.
Most rapes are committed by known persons under the influence of liquor and drug, she said.
Dr Rupesh Patkar said, “We have only right to express ourselves but no right to abuse any one sexually”
“There is a need to change the attitude towards women,” he added
Ms Ratnabala Divkar stressed that it is very difficult to understand a victim’s trauma, adding  that there is an urgent need to change the attitude in the house itself.
“In most of the houses, a girl child is taught not to raise her voice in case a sexual abuse takes place. She is told to hide it due to the image and family prestige. But, now, the time has come to forget that all and raise the voice,’’ she stressed.
While comparing the society of the past and today, she said that there is no difference,  adding even if she is a teacher but in the house she is a housewife.
She said she has to carry out the routine house cores and felt that “Chitrangi should unite different organisations working in different capacities for the cause of women and create an environment and give a revolutionary thought to today’s woes of women.”
The former editor of local channel — Prudent, Mr Sandesh Prabhudesai asserted that there is an urgent need to bring a tremendous attitudinal change in the society against a sexually abused victim girl.
He posed a question to the audience: when we will stop pointing an accusing finger at the victim of rape?
“We always come across people blaming the victim saying that she lost the respect, her image is gone instead of expressing sympathy towards her in the male dominated society,’’ he added. In the end, two poems were also recited. [NT]